By NB3 Foundation

Sun Safety tips

Summer is a favorite amongst our youth. Summer means no school and long days for fun. Before you head out in the heat, here are some safety tips to help keep your little ones and families safe.

If you must be out in the sun, Cover up! Sounds counterintuitive but long-sleeved shirts and light weight pants and  shorts can provide protection from the UV rays.  Clothing is one of the best ways to protect you from the sun. Remember to wear a hat, a full-brimmed hat is recommended, but if you only have a cap be sure to use sunscreen to protect your exposed areas.

Don’t forget your eyes! Use sunglasses to shield your eyes and sensitive skin around your eyes from harmful UV rays. Look for sunglasses that offer UVA and UVB protection.

Hosting an outdoor event? Ensure you have adequate shade your participants or guests. Summer events and activities are fun and great way to get active, however keep in mind the time of day you will be hosting.
If you have to be out in peak UV hours, (10 a.m. to 4 p.m.) make sure to allow for frequent breaks and provide activities for participants to do in the shade. NB3FIT tries to keep programming in the mornings or late evenings out of peak UV hours.

Sunscreen! Probably the most common known form of sun protection should always be used when headed outdoors regardless of the season. Keep in mind, sunscreen works best when you used along with the other forms of protection listed above. Using a broad-spectrum sunscreen that blocks UVA and UVB rays is best. The SPF (sun protection factor) of a sunscreen rates how well it blocks out UV rays. Choose spf 30 or higher and reapply frequently as it does wear off especially in sweat and in water. Like foods, sunscreen has an expiration date, be sure to check before you apply. Remember regardless of skin color, everyone needs to practice sun safety. Everyone is at risk for skin damage from the sun, so cover up and use sunscreen!

There was a recent recall on sunscreens and skin products, so it is always best to consult your child’s pediatrician for health provider for advice on sunscreen use.

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By NB3 Foundation

What does being an active dad mean to you?

By: Leroy Silva | Pueblo of Laguna

Before I became a dad, in high school I was already making plans on what type of dad I wanted to be. In my 10th grade English class we had to write a letter to our unborn children. I don’t remember the entire letter, but I do recall one sentence,“I am going to be cool and not lazy!” Both remain true today, and I am proud to say that I have been blessed with four healthy children and a wonderful wife.

As a dad and husband, being active revolves around two factors: time and energy. Sometimes it seems like I don’t have enough of either, but this is where teamwork (with my wife) and time management come into play. For example, my wife and I try to keep a monthly financial budget that tracks our money and expenses. I use this same concept to track my activity levels, work schedule and behavior (e.g. bedtime, wake up, etc), to understand our lifestyle and to help make adjustments where needed. The most important part of this approach is communicating with my wife, because “We are a team” (one of her favorite quotes). I am very grateful to have a supportive partner who is on the same page when it comes to maintaining the health and wellbeing of our family. 

Being an “active dad” means that I incorporate my kids into my activity plans, I am mindful of their abilities, and I have the proper snacks to keep us happy. I am a big believer in the saying “our kids will do what they see, and will say what they hear,” and by them seeing mom and dad having fun exploring, running, walking, biking, laughing with others, and treating each other well… they will do the same.

As a dad and husband, I see it as my responsibility to protect, provide and love my family to the best of my ability. I cannot be the best at anything if I do not take care of my personal wellness. As a parent I have the opportunity to break unhealthy and toxic cycles that have plagued families and communities for generations. I am fortunate to share my knowledge and experience with relatives across the country to inspire them to make wellness a priority in their lives.

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By NB3 Foundation

Juneteenth Freedom Day!

On Thursday, President Joe Biden signed a bill establishing Juneteenth as a federal holiday, commemorating the end of slavery.
Today we celebrate Juneteenth with our Black brothers and sisters. Take some time  today to reflect and have respectful conversations and dialogue centered around race and equality.
Support Black-owned businesses, listen to Black artists, read books written by Black poets and authors and support organizations seeking/supporting race and equality.

Historical Legacy of Juneteenth:
“Even though the Emancipation Proclamation was made effective in 1863, it could not be implemented in places still under Confederate control. As a result, in the westernmost Confederate state of Texas, enslaved people would not be free until much later. Freedom finally came on June 19, 1865, when some 2,000 Union troops arrived in Galveston Bay, Texas. The army announced that the more than 250,000 enslaved black people in the state, were free by executive decree. This day came to be known as “Juneteenth,” by the newly freed people in Texas.”

Educate: Helpful resources on Juneteenth:
NY Times “So you want to learn about Juneteenth”
View online resources and celebration information at the  National Museum of African American History and Culture website

Celebrations: Celebrate the day virtually or find event in your area:
19 Ways to celebrate Juneteenth as a family 
New Mexico Juneteenth 2021: “To a Higher Ground”
Celebrate virtually with Eiteljorg Museum
Freedom Festival hosted by Juneteenth Foundation 

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By NB3 Foundation

Men’s Health Week: Featuring NB3 Foundation staff

For Men’s Health Week we are sharing messages to help celebrate and bring awareness to the health of men and boys. In this blog, we are featuring the men that make up the NB3 Foundation. All unique in their own ways, we asked them all a few questions about  health and wellness. Enjoy!

What motivates you to stay active?

Clint: My Kids

Jon: I agree with Caitriona Reed when she said, “Life is given to us for free. How can we repay such a gift except with the fullness of our own life?” Part of how I seek to live a full life is by staying active, especially by exploring and playing outdoors. Also, it’s fun!

Ryan: I like to run around with my dog, so if I can’t keep up with him then it makes me sad. That is why I work out.

Tom: Feeling good and strong.

Leroy: My Kids

Demitrius: Wanting to be the best at what I do.

What’s your favorite healthy snack and meal?

Clint: Fruit

Jon: Salads are perfect healthy meals, just add your own favorite veggies, fruits and proteins. I’ve recently rediscovered my love for apples as a healthy snack.

Ryan: I enjoy a well-seasoned chicken breast on a bed of rice with greens. The greens can be brussel sprouts, asparagus, broccoli, zucchini, or edamame.

Tom: Frozen grapes

Leroy: My favorite meal is sweet potatoes and favorite snack is avocado toast.

Demitrius: Pears and green apples 

How do you prioritize your mental health?

Clint: Taking some time for myself

Jon: Spending as much time as possible in nature is the greatest support for my mental health.

Ryan: I take naps when I can. I drink plenty of water. I take time to watch a funny show to laugh a little. I play with my dog when I get the chance. Lastly, I like to unplug from technology when I can, giving me the space to relax and not worry about the world.

Tom: It is crucial to motivation, I use meditation and mindfulness. Also time in nature and being one with the surroundings is awesome.

Leroy: I reflect rather than react, because my emotional energy is important to me, and I don’t want to waste it on the little stressors in life.

How does your health affect your family and community?

Clint: If I am not trying to live a healthy life then it will affect my family in a negative way.
Jon: Staying healthy means that I’m able to do good work and be the best husband, son, uncle and brother I can be. 

Ryan: I set an example for my family by always running, urging my sister to go on hikes with me, and to eat healthier options when possible. Right now, I am trying to take my family hiking/camping this summer to get them outdoors. I enjoy being in the mountains and I would like for them to explore nature and appreciate it the way I do. 

Tom: When I am self-motivated, I’m able to help motivate others.

Leroy: I’m a big believer in the saying “our kids will do what they see, and will say what they hear.” As a parent and community wellness advocate, it is very important for me to live a life style that reflects my words. This means being mindful of my relationships, how I treat others, and how I take care of myself.  

Why is being healthy important to you when it comes to practicing and preserving your culture and traditions?

Clint: Without culture we have nothing

Jon: I aspire to live in the tradition of peoples who take seek to learn about, respect, and take care of one another and our world. Being healthy is essential for me to be able to fully explore, appreciate and show love to people and the earth.

Ryan: A lot of our traditions require you to be in a good/stable mental, physical, and emotional being. So, making sure I take care of myself allows me to carry on those traditions and spread the love. 

Tom: As a non-Native, my culture is very different and it isn’t from lineage. It is rather my drive to make a difference for others. I do fundraising through my running and my races. Staying healthy provides me a means to accomplish these initiatives. 

Leroy: Our ancestors were strong and persevered through tough times– being healthy today is my way of thanking them and keeping their legacy alive.

What advice or words of encouragement would you give to young Native men/boys about the importance of practicing healthy habits.

Clint: How you live your life will impact your family, your kids and your commuity.

Jon: Find the healthy habits that are fun and meaningful for you and don’t get discouraged if you sometimes lack motivation or fall out of your health routine. The small choices add up and making one small healthy choice today can lead to a lot more in the future. 

Ryan: If you want to become healthier, whether it be physically, mentally, or emotionally, it will require a lot of discipline and time. Create a routine for yourself, that way the healthy habit will eventually become second nature and allow you to set another goal. At the end of the day, your decisions will determine your outcomes so choose wisely.  

Tom: Statistics are not on your side, be the new statistic.

Leroy: Find outlets that make you feel happy, and help you heal when it’s needed.  

Demitrius: Put yourself first.

What health groups, websites, apps, gadgets, blogs, magazines would  you recommend?

Clint: Fitbits

Ryan: Nike Run Club App. AllTrails app to find hiking trails near you or wherever you go. Check out ATHLEAN-X on YouTube for workout videos. 

Tom: Noom has helped me be mindful about my health, also Defined Fitness staff has been very helpful. Tailwind is also very helpful with nutrition endurance and recovery questions.

What are some healthy ways to celebrate Father’s Day and gift ideas?

Clint: Go for a walk or just be active with your kids

Ryan: Go for a hike, bike ride, or walk to a scenic area to make it fun. Schedule an annual physical to check your father’s health. Go for a swim at the pool or in a lake. Go golfing if your dad is into that or fishing. Gift ideas: a water bottle, workout clothes, running shoes, a day at the spa, or a new pillow so he sleeps well. 

Tom: Go for a hike with the family.

Leroy: For Father’s Day, choose a place to hike, bike, or run with your family. 

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By NB3 Foundation

Learning to live in the stress to take on adversity

By: Ryan Arkie | Pueblo of Laguna

What does it mean to be a Native man? When presented with that question, many characteristics come to mind such as strength, independence, courage, and leadership. The “stoic strong Native man” is what often comes to mind, but why is that? Why have western concepts of what a man is or should be oozed their way into the minds of Indigenous ways of knowing? That’s a whole other story, but what I want to talk about is why we should stop trying to be Victor Joseph and be more like Thomas Builds-the-Fire: kind, loving, and funny. We need to provide men space to express themselves wholly and without remorse.

Let’s first recognize that it is men themselves who need to do the work of finding those spaces or people to confide in, an outlet to express themselves. Some outlets I have found for myself include working out, listening to music and watching a funny tv show to spark laughter and good feelings. I also can’t forget that morning coffee that gets me going in the morning. For me, it’s the little joys. These are things I do for myself but I want to provide perspectives of other Native men so I asked them the question, “How do you deal with your emotions?”

Aaron: “Music of course, I love music, that’s my long-term mental health outlet. I work it (stress/anger) into music and release it in a creative way; it’s been a great savior in my life. You can feel embarrassed or weird talking about things but it can be turned into music. I want people to feel what I’m feeling in my music.”

Julian: “Gardening is a hobby of mine. Being able to feel like I can take care of something small and reap the benefits of my labor. When fall time comes around, I know that I will have something to enjoy and that gives me peace of mind.”

Logan: “First ceremony was a turning point and it challenged myself to think about who I was. I went to ceremony and found out who I was. It became liberating and incredible to learn a lot. It made me turn back to culture and allowed me to navigate relationships, identity and family.”

Jake: “I do a lot of reflecting about the day, week and what happened. I think about how I can change the future. I also talk to someone, such as a therapist or friend, even if it’s complaining it’s good to just get it out there. When you start saying it out loud it belittles the issue and puts things into perspective (not as dramatic).”

Suppressing your feelings has detrimental effects. Have you noticed that when you don’t let it out, you often come to a boiling point where you become destructive whether it be to yourself, others or inanimate objects? That’s a sign that you must find a way to express those emotions in a healthy manner. It doesn’t have to be emotionally expressed; it can be as simple as making jewelry or taking that secluded dirt road drive.

Don’t feel the need to uphold the “stoic Native man” image, be brave enough to be unapologetically you. It is not going to be easy, but it’s a first step to healing yourself so that you can be there for others who may need you. Then we can make progress to heal as Indigenous Peoples and take on the world. It has to begin with you, “stoic Native man”, how will you choose to heal?

Click the graphic below from Mental Health America for more information and  resources on mental health in Indigenous communities.

 

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By Guest

Heart health is critical, and sometimes tricky

By: Tom Camacho


I have been healthy for most of my life as an avid equestrian, a ballet and jazz dancer, an actor and jet engine mechanic in the Air Force. I have exercised in some means almost every day and as a runner have 20 marathons and several ultramarathons along with one straight year of running every day outdoors in Chicago weather totaling 3,500 miles (about the width of the United States) run for charity. I was so trained that I could just run 20 miles at the drop of a hat. What I never considered was maternal and paternal hand me downs as hereditary problems that, no matter how physically active and in shape you are, can manifest quickly and out of nowhere. My body is a cholesterol factory. 

I moved to the Albuquerque area from the Midwest in 2018. I had passed through Albuquerque while in the Air Force and fell in love with the Sandia Mountains, so I decided to make the move. Most of the Midwest is at sea level or below so I came out and experienced a 5500-foot altitude gain. I started to notice that I was short of breath and as an avid runner, I just figured it was my body working to become accustomed to the new altitude. It got worse instead of better. In late 2018, I had an unbelievably bad day and could not catch my breath so I went to the VA emergency room where they diagnosed a heart problem. After many tests, it was determined that I had blockage of up to 100% in all my heart arteries. I had quintuple bypass surgery in February 2019. 

Since surgery and after some rehab I was able to run the Duke City Marathon in downtown Albuquerque in September of 2019 and am now training for the 2021 Duke City Marathon as a training run for the Deadman’s Peak 100-mile ultramarathon on November 9, 2021. 

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), in the United States, men on average die five years earlier than women and at higher rates from three leading causes of death including heart disease. Take care of yourselves and remember to watch for the warning signs and call your doctor even if you do not think it serious. Heart surgery is very survivable, and you can go on to live an amazingly vibrant life. 

It is best to contact your doctor or go to the emergency room if you just feel off, here are some of the warning signs.  

  • Shortness of breath when you exert yourself or when you lie down
  • Fatigue and weakness
  • Swelling in your legs, ankles, and feet
  • Rapid or irregular heartbeat
  • Reduced ability to exercise
  • Persistent cough or wheezing
  • Lack of appetite and nausea
  • Difficulty concentrating or decreased alertness 
  • Sudden, severe shortness of breath 

    More Heart Disease Facts!
    Routine checkups and screenings for men to have

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By NB3 Foundation

Silence speaks volumes 

By: Jessica Tsosie | Pueblo of Jemez

Mental health is important every day, every month. This month isn’t like any other month, May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Like so many others, I have struggled with prioritizing myself and my own mental health for the sake of not having to be a burden on anyone. If you asked someone or if someone asked you about Jessica Tsosie, I’m sure you’d hear things like, “She’s athletic, she’s educated, she’s helpful, she’s family oriented and she’s hard-working”. If you saw my social media accounts you would say, “She seems happy.” If you saw me in person, you would think she’s busy with her two jobs and college courses. But what you wouldn’t see, were my struggles and anxiety, the things that were taking a toll and weighing me down.  

 What I want to share with you is one of the most challenging and personal stories of my life. My hope is that by sharing, I can spread awareness and help others who may be going through an overwhelming time in their life. It’s true when people say, “You don’t know what people are going through”. To me, this is a silent cry that we all encounter. As Native Americans, I feel we tend to dismiss and bottle up our emotions because we must be “strong.” We are strong, and I’m proud of my culture and teachings, but how do you battle anxiety, depression, grief, tiredness, loneliness, uncertainty, doubt, fear, etc., and be strong at the same time? 

In November of 2020, I had a life changing experience, and it was one of the darkest days of my 27 years. Prior to this day, like anyone and perhaps everyone, I had my struggles with life’s challenges. The pandemic added some more unnecessary and unwanted stress and many other emotions. Nonetheless, I felt as if I was finding balance in certain areas of my health. But I’d take one step forward and fall 10 steps back. I try not to think about that day last November, but I remember it vividly. It was a Thursday afternoon, and it could have very well been my last. There was a moment that made me feel like, I would rather be gone than to be alive and feel like this. Feeling unworthy, unappreciated and as if my whole existence didn’t matter led me to the backroads of Jemez with tears running down my face, wanting to end the hurt, feeling the pressure. 

Coming out of the dark and clouded thoughts were my little brother and my godson. As more of my clouded thoughts cleared, I thought about my parents, my friends and my life in its entirety. It’s been six months since my darkest day, and to say I’m grateful, thankful and blessed is an understatement.

On that very same day, I was able to make a trip to my clinic and speak with a therapist. It was such a relief to talk to someone who didn’t know me! I didn’t feel any judgement, I felt safe, secure and heard. I let it all out, I didn’t hold back and by the end of our session I felt like so much weight was lifted off my shoulders. But I also felt so overwhelmed, emotionally and physically. I was tired, and it took me a few days of rest to feel like myself again. The few people I told about my struggles were supportive and loving, but the words that stood out the most were, “I would have never known.” I would have never known either.

Coming out on the other side of things, I knew I had to make my health a priority. Like physical health, mental health is so important to our overall wellness. The brain is like the motherboard of how we think, feel and act. If we aren’t taking care of our mental health, other areas of our life start to suffer. Whether that be how we view ourselves, which affects self-esteem, confidence, and knowing or seeing your full potential. Our mental health has many moving pieces and is extremely important and probably the most ignored part of our overall health and wellness.

One way I went about prioritizing my mental health was writing. I love to write, I love to collect pens, so I thought to myself, “let’s trying writing on a piece of paper.” It wasn’t a “dear diary” kind of writing, it was to write down every emotion I ever felt in that single moment. I wrote down everything that was said and everything that happened. It wasn’t to relive it all; it was a reminder to myself that I was able to get through those dark thoughts. I write when I feel a sense of uncertainty, anxiety, fear and sadness. This has truly helped me let go of unnecessary things, negative energy, especially things that I can and can’t control. But above all, as a Native American I continue to pray. I pray in the morning with cornmeal, and I pray at night before I fall asleep. I talk to my grandparents and all those who have gone before me, to ask them for guidance, strength and courage. But the most important is I pray and thank the creator for giving me the gift of life! 

Mental illness can sneak up on anyone, no one is immune to feeling sad, depressed or unworthy. Every emotion we feel is valid! Far too often we neglect our mental health because it is taboo to talk about our feelings or we are taking care of other things or other people before ourselves. Which is why it is important that we are all kinder and more open with one another. We need create safe places for our friends, children and families to talk about their feelings. A lot of the time, we would prefer to talk to our relatives and friends, someone we can trust, but fear of judgement often holds us back.  

This may seem like an ad, where you may skim through the advice and tips because it does not personally apply to you. However, let my story be a valuable lesson to take some time to research/read up on topics such as mental health. You just never know.

Here are some tips on how to be a good listener and supporter to your friends and family who may confide in you: 

  1. Listen without distractions
    If you need to talk to someone let them know the conversation is serious and that you need their undivided attention. If you are that someone who is listening, be present and give your full attention.  
  2. Be sympathetic and non-judgmental
    Don’t get angry with the person. Listen to understand, not to react. 
  3. Offer support 
    Let them know you care about them. 
  4. Take the person seriously
    Call for help if needed. 
  5. Avoid asking questions such as “Why?”
    Asking “Why?” will make someone feel rejected, unheard, alone, guilty, like ‘no one understands’. 
  6. Don’t dismiss any of their emotions – their feelings are valid
    Be considerate of the language you use. Don’t tell someone to man up/woman up, you’re stronger than this, this isn’t the right way, what are you running away from, face the facts. This kind of language does more damage.  

 
Other Helpful Resources:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

https://www.wernative.org/my-mind/mental-health-challenges/when-life-sucks

https://www.mhanational.org/issues/native-and-indigenous-communities-and-mental-health  

Local hotlines and services provided to you in your own community are  beneficial and a great resource when seeking aid with your mental health.  

 At the NB3 Foundation we aim to promote positive health outcomes for Native youth and communities. We recognize mental health plays is an integral role in one’s overall health, and we strive to equip our youth with knowledge and resources that will benefit their holistic health for their lifetimes.   

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By NB3 Foundation

Investing in yourself to become the best version of you

Are you thinking about going back to school to pursue your associates, bachelors, masters or doctorate degree? Is it constantly on your mind, every single day? Then I suggest you saddle up and pursue the thing that scares you the most. That is what I did. The thought of obtaining and going further with my education was a relentless thought, I constantly contemplated on what I wanted to be when I “grew up”.

I completed my undergrad at Fort Lewis College in Durango, Colorado. I went back to the reservation and I started working at the Public Health Program; working for my community was the perfect place to be. My supervisor at the time was very passionate about Public Health, she still is, and working with her I was amazed at how everything comes together in public health. If you aren’t familiar, public health is “the art and science of preventing disease, prolonging life and promoting health through organized efforts of society” (Acheson, 1988; WHO). I contemplated for quite some time on choosing a career path, because I aspired to be so many things and I craved challenges. Amidst the whole contemplation phase, I became a mother and I was blessed with a beautiful daughter who I love so dearly. After becoming a mother, I started to make sense of the path I wanted to take.

Fast-forward to 2018, I did what I felt was daunting, I submitted my application to graduate school. After hitting the submit button, there were many thoughts in my mind of uncertainty, rejection and self-doubt. A few weeks later I received a letter of acceptance to the University of Arizona Mel and Enid Zuckerman College of Public Health. I had many mixed emotions, it was bittersweet, because the path I was choosing was very foreign to me and, I had my then two-year-old daughter to consider and care for, but I dived into the unknown head first.

I started grad school in the spring of 2019, and my first semester was smooth sailing. Oh boy, after semester one, the rest of my time at grad school was intense, to the point of wanting to surrender. I constantly questioned myself, what did I get myself into? Can I do this? Is this worth it? Being a single mom, working a full-time job, enrolled in a graduate program and becoming a teacher during the pandemic had its own challenges, and of course coming from a traditional family and being a Pueblo woman is also no easy role. Knowing my identity as an individual and the core values my late grandparents, Joe and Florinda Gachupin, instilled in my family kept me grounded. I persevered and stayed resilient because at one point, my ancestors prayed and fought for me to be where I am today and who I am today. My Indigenous ways of knowing allowed me to be resilient through all the challenges, fears and doubts I faced. Each day I am thankful for my family, especially my mother, because of her positive nurturing, she instilled the tools I needed for this life I am living. My father also had his own ways of instilling the tools I needed to be where I am at today.

Why am I telling you my story? My hope is that it inspires you to do more, and be more because we are all capable. I took the path of more resistance because I knew it was daunting, I knew it would challenge me, but I didn’t know life would throw other curve balls amid grad school. I have learned over the years that life is never static, and sometimes the universe has a way of sending you messages, especially when life may be stagnant for us.

I will continue with some advice, my top key takeaways from my own personal experiences, if you’re considering going back to school, it doesn’t matter who you are, I just hope my advice helps one person in this world. Before you read on and take my advice, step back and examine your own life because we are all living a different timeline, and keep in mind, there is no “right way” to live your life.

  1. Find your support

It’s no denying that you will have a lot on your plate as you take on the next chapter of your life. Too often, as humans, we tend to think that in order to accomplish something is taking it all upon yourself. I think majority of the load of grad school, I took on myself, but I had a support system. I needed a support system, my parents and siblings supported my daughter and I through this accomplishment. Especially if it was crunch time for assignment deadlines and exams. Find a true support system, one that will work with you and not against you.

  1. Sacrifice

You will need to make some sacrifices while on the path to earning and attaining your educational goals. The sacrifice may sound monumental, but no matter what, whatever path you choose for yourself the time will still pass you by. I always did my best to change my perspective to be more positive. Having a positive outlook creates less resistance in what you need to do to attain your goals. Don’t lose sight of why you started on the path and forget about the guilt because there will be many moments you will need to choose your reading, homework and class over your family time. The positive to sacrificing is that it is only temporary, but the reward is so much greater, and I will get to that.

  1. Failure

There will be moments where you will feel like a failure, whether that is with your homework, being a parent, colleague, or simply being human. Without failure, we wouldn’t be able to learn and grow from anything, and if you want to succeed you will have to fail at something. It’s all about how you handle your failures and how you persevere. As humans, we tend to overlook and overthink, so be gentle to yourself as you maneuver through your path of more resistance.

  1. Make personal wellness a priority

When you’re juggling school, work, being a parent, and all other roles or titles you may hold, it is important to continue to make yourself a priority. There will be nights you will need to choose sleep over homework or reading. Days where you will choose self-care, and I suggest you schedule in self-care in your planner, but of course when feasible, just don’t forget that you matter too. Those small ounces of self-care will take you a long way because you will be overwhelmed, stressed and overworked. If you’re not caring for yourself on your journey, how do you expect to reach your destination?

  1. Hard work pays off

Throughout the journey, keep your eye on the prize. Don’t lose sight of why you started and let those reasons be what keeps you grounded. The journey to earning your degree may seem extensive but when you achieve your goal all the work and sacrifice will be worth the accomplishment. Today, I am able to look back to the many times I wanted to give up and put my goals and dreams on the back burner, but I am proud of my resilience. If you give up, make some room to learn and grow from that, but remember, you can always start where you left off.

As a parent going back to school, there are many positive outlooks for your children as well. Pursuing your own educational endeavors will also set up your own children for success because you’ll be serving as the guide for their own education. We know that children are like sponges, what they see, hear and learn stays with them. Lastly, think of going back to school as an investment to yourself and to your family. Investing in yourself will more than likely be money well spent. I invested in myself, and not until the end of my path of more resistance did I see the bigger picture. All the stuggles, hardships, challenges, and wanting to lay next to my daughter and fall asleep with her, was all worth the sacrifice and the rewards are monumentally astounding. I share my story with you because it is inherent in us as Indigenous peoples to tell and share your stories, in hopes that it will teach those around you that we are all capable to do what we set our minds to. I challenge you to invest in yourself, to get outside your comfort zone, because only then will you grow and become the best version of yourself.

 

 

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The women who inspire us…

“A woman who is an inspiration to me is Debra Haaland because she is making strides for Indian Country. We need more positive Indigenous representation in this world and I believe Deb to be the person to elevate our voices. She will soon hold one of the highest positions in the U.S. government and I couldn’t be more elated for this historic moment. Lastly, I have to give respect to my mom because I would not have accomplished much without her support and love.” – Ryan Arkie, Evaluation and Research assistant

“My mother is my inspiration because she has shown me the qualities of a true and honest Matriarch.  She is strong, resilient, and courageous in her own unique ways.  She is the one that keeps our family in cohesion even when challenges arise.  She has paved a positive path for all her children and grandchildren.” – Alva Gachupin, evaluation and research coordinator

“Lynn Trujillo is an inspiration to me. Seeing someone from my community rise to where she is, has helped me believe in myself. She is an example of how with the right amount of zeal, Indigenous women can do anything.” – Jennie Holmes, NB3FIT program coordinator

“Her wisdom is knowledge. Her love is comfort. Her cooking is happiness. Her education is motivating. Her commitment is fulfilling. Her presence is a blessing. She is our matriarch. My mother, my first best friend, my biggest supporter, she will always be my inspiration. “ – Jessica Tsosie, advancement assistant

“I draw inspiration from the scientist and author Robin Wall Kimmerer. Through her teaching and writing, the reciprocal relationship she has articulated between humanity, the land, and its plants and animals influences my daily actions and explorations.” – Jon Driskell, COO

“A woman who inspires me is a past NB3 Foundation staff member, Michelle Gutiérrez. She’s a hard working mother who is smart, fierce and kind all at the same time. She is a go-getter who always advocates for her community and the communities she serves. I aspire to be as selfless and genuine as she.” – Sacha Smith, communications specialist

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By NB3 Foundation

To my Indigenous sisters: honor yourself, prioritize yourself, love yourself


Putting yourself at the top of your list.

One thing I’ve learned since becoming a mother, it is ok if you feel you can’t “do it all”. This has not been an easy lesson to learn much less an easy thing to admit. I am self admittedly often too proud. And I am an especially proud Native woman – a Pueblo woman. So, realizing and accepting this not only didn’t come easy but even felt counter intuitive. And along with that the ideas of self-preservation or self-care also were foreign concepts to me as well. Something out of the books of Shangri-La. But I have accepted and agreed to taking my journey with these intentions.

If any of you are anything like me, you know all too well there are some days when you feel like the family super hero, Super Matriarch! flying through her list of not only the “to-dos” but also the “take care of everyone else’s” and the “keeper of all things”. Knocking all those out in a single-bound. BOOM! KAPOW! Then there are those days when the simplest of tasks that should be a pebble instead feels like a giant boulder you struggle to push up the mountain side. And that “to-do” list rolls out like an old cartoon scroll unraveling off into the never-ending distance. And all you can do is stand and watch it all seemingly get away from you. But it is ok. I repeat, it is ok. Just breathe.

Which leads me to yet another lesson, there is no finish line. Who knew, right? Now it is important to understand that I am a runner. Ever since I was a young girl trying to not only keep up with but also try to beat my superhero, my dad, at his own race. It has just always been a part of who I am. Competitive by nature. So, this concept of no finish line quite simply goes against my ingrained instincts. But I have learned it to be true. We are in a constant state of learning, we are in a constant state of being, and we are in a constant state of doing. Therefore, I have realized the finish line is really all just an illusion. Like an oasis that dissipates the moment you feel you’ve arrived only to realize that the line has somehow seemingly moved. And once again, you are off to the races chasing down this hazy yet magical mirage. But it is ok. I repeat it is ok. Just breathe.

Does any of this sound familiar? All too familiar? Just like so many other working mothers out there the feeling of being overwhelmed is nothing new. But what takes courage is to recognize and acknowledge that you simply can’t do it all no matter how much you deplete yourself trying. There are so many expectations placed upon us as Indigenous, working, modern – but stay traditional – women. I have also had to learn to admit that the biggest expectations usually come from myself. Because for any Native woman who grew up like me, honored but humbly raised in our traditional ways, we carry-on extra responsibilities. We carry-on the teachings of our elders, our grandmother’s, our mother, our Auntie’s, the women of our communities. We carry those responsibilities not just on our backs but quite literally in our bellies. All the knowledge passed down to us that we must now show and teach to our children – to our daughters. And for many of us who choose to fulfill those responsibilities it is not always easy.

It is not always easy navigating the many roads, avenues, and corners of the world that some of us travel to access education, to gain our experiences, or even seek adventure before taking on the responsibility of a career, being a partner to someone, and motherhood. And sometimes navigating those roads and paths back home can be just as tricky, sometimes even more treacherous than the ones taken when you first left. For me, personally, no matter how far I ventured or traveled or even lived away from my village, I was never too far away. My grandfather would always tell me assuredly “you will always come back home”. He was right. My heart always brought me back home. And home is where I stay to raise my daughter.

As much as we try to balance our everyday lives the one constant that grounds us as mothers is our children. As it should be. And as my daughter grows, I too continue to grow with her. I see many things in her – my mother, my father, my grandparents – all who are no longer with us in this physical world but who show themselves through her. Her laugh, her expressions, how she stands with her arms folded just like my dad did and her soft, compassionate, caring nature just as my mother. She is my new breath and yet at the young age of seven also my guide to my past. We, Pueblo people, often say the children came from knowing and she teaches me that every day.

So how do I honor her and raise her to be a strong, confident, Indigenous woman in this unforgiving atmosphere? I ponder this question almost every day. Obviously knowing all the challenges she will face. Surely, I don’t have all the answers but what I can give her is the same love and teachings I was given by my family and my community. There are many ways to do that but the most important for us both is learning and re-learning our Keres language together and utilizing our language in the things we do. We cook together just as I did with my mother and all the women in my family, acknowledging in Keres the traditional foods and plants we eat and how they were grown.

We also go on family hikes, bike rides, or fun runs which brings us much needed time together to actively enjoy our space in this world. Being outdoors in nature is where I find my place to ground myself, reconnect with our homelands, and just be. And, as parents, we realize the positive influence these places and activities also have on our daughter. When I asked her “what is the number one thing you want to do for your birthday?”, her response “go for a hike!”. So, hike we did. Almost five miles round trip into the mountains. “Challenge accepted!” as she confidently exclaims. And on this hike, I again speak to her the best I can in our language to remind us of the significance of all that we see, the name of the area we are occupying, and what it means to us as Pueblo people through our old stories, our history, our creation stories. We acknowledge the names of plants, trees, and animals. These is how I honor her and in doing so honor myself, and those before us. Remembering them and expressing our gratitude. Doing all these things is how I practice self-care and self-preservation. This is how I choose to prioritize myself. When I need my own space, I run. Just as I learned as a kid from my father, remaining grateful that I still run.

To all the single, married, or “it’s complicated” women and mothers out there remembering to replenish your spirit is crucial. To my Indigenous sisters, I implore you to prioritize yourself by recognizing the beauty around you, taking your place in this world, and most importantly recognize the beauty within. Follow our teachings by sharing your gifts but also recognize how important it is to give yourself the same love and care you would to others. I see you; I am you; I honor you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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